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Jun 30, 2010 7:33AM

You talkin' to me???

One of the great hazards of life as a full time SAHM is the isolation from other adults in your day-to-day happenings.  Often times mothers don’t even realize how isolated they’ve become until they try to interact with other adults and find themselves completely out of practice!  Eventually there are enough activities and errands that involve interacting with the world that every SAHM is able to reintegrate, but for my part, I still catch myself sometimes doing very very strange things that are a product of my little baby bubble.

Next time you go to the grocery store, pay attention to the mothers with infants.  You might find that they are talking to their babies, asking their infant, “should mommy get pears or do you want peaches today baby?”  Or even worse, “don’t let mommy forget to buy toilet paper, okay muffin?”  I mean, obviously the child cannot respond or even marginally engage in the conversation mommy is having with herself, but in the grocery store setting it actually seems pretty normal.  Take it beyond the grocery store though, and, well . . .

I was in line at Chipotle after a morning of running errands with Thomas when, without even realizing it, I was asking Thomas’ advice on what I should order.  As I asked him, “What do you think, should I get a bowl or just go ahead and get a burrito?” a teenager standing in front of me in line asked me, “Excuse me, are you talking to me?”

I turned bright red and completely unable to explain simply responded, “uh, no. Sorry.”

The kid was being polite, not rude – it just didn’t seem to occur to him that I would be carrying on a one-sided conversation with an infant.  And why should it?  Thomas doesn’t want to talk about burrito or bowl, he just wants to slobber on my car keys and throw things from his stroller.  It is actually quite obvious that it is weird to be talking to him, but I didn’t even realize I was doing it!!!”

So I called my friend Emma and I made a lunch date with her and her baby girl.  You see, lunching with the ladies isn’t just about catching up with friends, it is about keeping yourself sane!  And should Emma and I find ourselves talking to our respective infants, well, at least she won’t think I am crazy!


0 Comments ~ Posted By CaliChic
posted by Anonymous

Of course, it's good for your baby's language development to have you chatting with him throughout the day, right?

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Anon -- most development experts will agree that talking with your baby is helpful for developing the baby's language skills. I am not trying to say it isn't. I just think the exercise should have limits, and for myself, I would like to be conscious of when I am purposefully engaging my baby and when I am just talking out loud to myself because I don't have anyone else to talk to during the day. In other words, it is the difference between, "Look Thomas, that doggy is black!" and "Thomas, remind mommy to fill the car up with gas today, ok?" -- Victoria

posted by

HAHAHA!! I've been there!

That reminds me of when I first went back to work. My brother asked how my first day back was. I told him, "I got to talk to grown-ups! I got to have real, actual conversations with grown-ups and they answered me and we got to say bad words and talk about things besides dirty diapers and Sesame Street!"

posted by

Ohh yes. I do this even when I'm BY MYSELF. It's frightening. I'll be at work and say "Oh, mommy forgot to type this in".......wait......I'm alone, and without my child. Yeah.

posted by

I can't wait to go back to work in October! When I got the message that she was accepted into daycare I jumped up and down at the thought of getting to spent my days with grown-ups again ;) I felt so bad but I guess it's natural.

I ask for her input while shopping all the time...When she was about 6 months old I realize I don't really ever talk with her. I changed that, and now I'm constantly having one-sided discussions...

posted by

lol, I never had a problem with this, but i am not a very chatty person. I kind of had to work myself into talking to her MORE, becuase i was worried about not developing her verbal skills enough.

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My husband and I went to out to eat the other and I actually asked the waiter for a glass of "Wah Wah". I was embarrassed, but he laughed.

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